“I Forgive You”
One day, a woman was walking down the street. Suddenly, out of nowhere a man intentionally pushing the woman out of his way. She landed in a ditch full of muddy water. The woman then yelled to the man, “I hope you solve everything out today!” The man surprised by the woman’s response, he said “why did you say that? didn’t you get mad when I push you over?” The woman replied, “I guess you may be in some kind of big issue right now that you couldn’t handle so you took it on me by pushing me to a ditch thinking that it might be an emotional release for you. So, instead of getting mad at you, I prefer to send you a prayer so you wouldn’t do what you did to me to other people in the future.”
Forgiveness is a virtue, but the way people perceive it is quite relative. Some people think that certain actions are forgivable while others are not. Some people think that forgiveness encourages people to perform their mistakes repeatedly. Forgiveness is subjective and the act of forgiveness can have many meanings.
We all, humans, make mistakes. So if we are able to forgive others, we also learn to forgive ourselves in situations of self-guilt. There is nothing more powerful than showing forgiveness to someone and giving them another chance. After all of the mistakes we have made, how can we still not forgive others for their mistakes?
So, instead of holding grudges to people who did me wrong, even if what they did have caused me so much pain and trouble, I think I prefer to forgive them. I prefer to heal every wound with ‘understanding’. It’s fine if people don’t take any effort to understand me, at least I’m taking the effort to understand them and that’s what matter. In the long run, I think the sharpest weapon of all is a kind and gentle spirit.
You can’t force people to always match your expectation and when they or you did a mistake you can’t never go back and change what happened, but you can start where you are and change the ending. People constantly make mistakes, even the people that we love. I, myself, make mistakes, all the time, to the point where I intentionally make them, because I wonder if I do the same mistake from a DIFFERENT angle, will it generate a different outcome?
People don’t learn from doing things right, they learn from doing things wrong. The smallest thing creates a huge impact. I learn a couple of things when I did a mistake. Then I repeat it again with a different narrative, then I learn again so much more this time.
Psst, a little tip from me, when someone does something wrong, don’t forget to ask their reason and also rewind all the things that they did right. It’s easy to see people’s fault but it’s rather hard to see the right things they’ve done.
Oh, one last thing, I read this one quote from an article that I resonate the most,
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” — Mahatma Gandhi
So, yeah, whoever you are reading this whether you personally know me in real life (or simply came across to my writing). I forgive you.
Have a nice day!
With love,
R
