People Aren’t Thinking About You Like You Think They Do
In social psychology, we encounter the concept of the ‘spotlight effect.’ This describes our inclination to think others focus on us more than they actually do. In reality, most people are so wrapped up in their own lives and challenges that they seldom dedicate much thought to others.
How many times have you held yourself back, afraid of being judged or criticized? How many opportunities have slipped away because you feared what others might think?
Far too many times. At least I do. There have been moments when I hesitated, letting fear of judgment or criticism dictate my choices. Opportunities slipped through my fingers—chances to speak up, to take a risk, to grow—because I was too worried about what others might think.
We saved so many positive affirmations on our phones and laptops as a daily reminder to uplift and motivate us especially when we hit a rock-bottom in life. They help anchor us.
I remember this one note I frequently revisit that carries essential message:
“Don’t allow other’s opinion to be obstacles to your growth. There will always be naysayers predicting your downfall. Their voices may feel significant now, but they’ll fade as you forge ahead on your path. Remember, this journey is yours. Stop granting others the power to shape it.”
Many of us hesitate, wary of failure or rejection. We’re haunted by thoughts like “I’m not capable,” “I’m not worthy,” “I’m not good enough”, or “The competition is too tough.” Yet, there’s immense bravery in pursuing what’s daunting, ambiguous, and challenging. So, here are the things that to remember:
1. So, if you’re passionate about something, dive in. If it doesn’t pan out, at least you gave it a shot.
2. Embrace your presence. Trust that your voice is as vital as anyone else’s. Remember, building confidence is a process, taken one small step at a time. Commit to this journey, reinforcing daily the belief that you deserve every space you occupy.
3. Treat yourself with the same kindness and support you offer others. Recognize your virtues, rejoice in your achievements, and prioritize your well-being.
Your radiant positivity benefits those around you. Occasionally, ensure you nourish yourself with the same generosity you extend to others and to truly make a positive impact in the world, you must first regard yourself with the utmost esteem.
With love,
R
