Tolerating vs To Loving
You know that feeling when you’re head over heels for someone, but it feels like they’re simply tolerating you?
It’s like you’re trying your best, pouring all your love into the relationship, but it seems like they’re not quite reciprocating.
I’ve been there, and let me tell you, it stings. It’s like you’re in this constant loop of trying to fit into someone else’s idea of who you should be. And it’s not just a little tweaking here and there; it’s a full-on transformation they’re after.
You find yourself changing bits and pieces of yourself, trying to mold into this image they have in their mind. It’s heartbreaking because you’re doing it out of love, right? You’re thinking, “If this makes them happy, then maybe it’s worth it.”
But deep down, you know it’s not right. Love shouldn’t feel like you’re constantly auditioning for a role in someone else’s life. It should be about acceptance, and cherishing each other for who you are, quirks and all.
Imagine a love that embraces you just as you are, no conditions, no checkboxes to tick. A love that doesn’t try to change you but appreciates the real you, flaws and imperfections included.
It’s a beautiful thing to be loved for your heart, for the essence of who you are. And let me tell you, you deserve that kind of love. We all do.
So, if you’re finding yourself in a situation where it feels like you’re doing all the bending and none of the receiving, take a step back. Love yourself enough to know that real love is a two-way street. It’s not about changing who you are but growing together, and accepting each other’s uniqueness.
Here’s to finding a love that celebrates you, just as you are. Because, my friend, you are worthy of a love that feels like home.
With love,
R
